I'm Stubborn but that's OK

Assalaamu'alaikum.

Hello wonderful people. How was your weekend? Hope you enjoyed it so much and had time to spent precious moments with your loved ones. That's one of the best ways to get ourselves refreshed after going through such a busy week.

Here, today, I would share my opinions and experience to be stubborn. A little bit sensitive, isn't it? And do you think you're stubborn? Why do you think so? Well, I personally think I am. Let's see if we have the same attributes, then I guess we're stubborn.

Again, to make it more clear, let's take a little while to take a look at the dictionary. Macmillan Dictionary states that a stubborn person is not willing to change their ideas or to consider anyone else's reasons or arguments. Well, referring to this definition, do you think you are one?

Now let me tell you my perspective. Being stubborn is more in the practice. What I mean here is that there's nobody who is born stubborn. Being stubborn is more created in the interactions between people. Say, it starts from the smallest circle in human's life, i.e. family. A simple example is when we raise our children with spoiling them, buying them everything they want, or doing whatever they want us to do, in the long run, would shape them into individuals who care only about their wants. They would think that if they want something, they would get it anyway. Then, if something does not go as they want, they would be very upset and mad. They would think that something that does not come from his mind is not right. In other words, it's only their wants/thoughts that deserve considerations or actions. Feeling always right would make them believe that they're the always right persons. The feeling of always right may be equal with the state of being stubborn. Referring back to its definition, they would not listen to the others' ideas.

Completely feeling as I've elaborated, I've been sure for so long that I'm a stubborn person. Quite often, it offends me a lot to receive others' ideas/opinions. I will always look for excuse for my ideas according to my logic. And I think all stubborn people are just like that.

The elaboration above sounds very negative, doesn't it? Yes, indeed, in most cases, stubborn is identified as something negative. It seems that if we do not want to accept someone else's ideas is considered ungrateful, or something destructive as those ideas might be better than ours and therefore if we don't do that, we miss the opportunities to improve the quality of something. Missing such a thing is considered a loss.

Absolutely opposed to the previous judgment, let's try to look at the state of being stubborn. This contrary point of view would help us better understand why people become stubborn, which in fact, is proven to be advantageous sometimes. Therefore, being stubborn does not always generates negativity, but quite contrary, positivity as well. 

Take me as an example. I'm quite stubborn in some ways. I think, in a lot of cases, I have my own standard. Therefore, when it comes to doing something, and my idea is better, I would follow my heart, even other people don't say so. In a different sense, my state of being stubborn is close to being a perfectionist. So, I measure the successfulness of something according to my own standard. Sometimes it takes too long to complete, and that makes people around me, or everyone in the team I work would go impatient and they judge me a slow worker. However, I don't care if they say so. What I want is high quality work according to my standard. That's it.

Reflecting on the example, I believe that there's still something good about being a stubborn person, when it's about quality of work. I mean, when we have a higher standard of quality, it's OK to be stubborn. Being stubborn in this way, quite often, will result in something splendid. 

That's all what I think about being stubborn. When we see it from a particular point of view, there is goodness in being stubborn. Then if you're a person of this kind, it's OK to be like that. Just be you, be high in quality, and be classy. You deserve it. 

Stay wonderful and I'll see you next time. Wassalaamu'alaikum.