The Need to Focus More on the Solution

Assalaamu'alaikum.

Hello wonderful people. Good morning. I'm back here to accommodate my unstoppable mind. Then let's see what I've got after such a self talk.

Problems are a part of life. Without them, life would never grow and develop. Going through them is our only way to live a better life.

These statements are basically true, based on a lot of people's experiences. But they hit me really hard just recently.

So, here the story went...

These last two weeks, were quite hard for me and my wife as new parents. Reality, our pretty baby girl, I name her Terra, is growing really well. She drinks a lot of her mommy milk. And her wight and length are just greatly normal. She has no problem with drinking. She also has nothing wrong with her health. Not even animals bit her. Everything was perfectly normal.

However, these last two weeks, when it comes to after Ashar until Isya, she cried really hard. She didn't even her mommy's milk. Then we wondered what happened. When it went crazier, we decided to call "Kyais" to help us deal with it.

When they came to my mother-in-law's house, where we've been staying during my wife's maternity leave, they detected something demonic in and around the house. They then did some rituals to clean the house up, including my baby and wife. Alhamdulillah this way works.

Even today, such a thing happened, and at least we know what to do, based on our previous experience, i.e. calling them. Yes, at least we have somebodies to help us cope with it. And that's a solution.

What I  want to point out here is not the solution, but instead, why the "kyais" don't really tell us what exactly happened. At first we wondered and very curious how would such a thing happen to us. They gave us a few clues, no more than that. But they kept saying, "Bismillah, let's try to do this. Hopefully Allah Helps us fix it". And alhamdulillah Allah Blesses us with the working solution. Knowing that there's at least a solution to any problem really comforts us. 

Learning from this, I have come to a conclusion that focusing more on finding solutions is better than tracing back the causes. The feeling of being able to solve a problem is more motivating than just to find th causes. I'm not saying that finding the causes is unnecessary. Knowing the cause can also help us find the best solution(s). However, when finding solution works, why would we waste our energy. Why not use the energy for finding solutions. Then we would feel always positive knowing that whatever happens, there are always solutions and people who would lend a hand to help. All and all let's focus more on finding solutions.

That's all I could say about being able to focus more on solutions. Hope it keeps reminding me of doing that. And if you have any ideas related this concern do not hasitate to share with me. Then we can learn and develop together.

Wassalaamu'alaikum. Stay wonderful.